I've been writing (a bit sporadically, true) and public speaking a lot more lately. The whole goal is to figure out how to communicate a message that matters to me in a way that is clear and moving. I would like to use words powerfully, skillfully.
And by far, there's one big lesson I've learned. One little tip that totally shifts the power of your communication.
It's ridiculously simple, but effective.
The secret? Before you write anything -- especially if it comes from the heart -- and definitely before you initiate a difficult conversation, ask yourself:
What do I really want to say?
This helps with writing. It helps, apparently, with transformative results in public speaking of any kind. And if you ever need to have a tough, emotional conversation with someone, find your compassionate center and go into this question deeply: What do I really want to say?